Two dates coming up

The guy from my dinner group called me and emailed me and stuff, I knew he was interested last week. We finally talked Wednesday of last week, and set this Saturday for a date since I was going to be out of town until then. So I am excited! It was so nice to be pursued honestly and not have to worry about anything.

On Monday I have a tentative date with an opthamologist that I met on eharmony. He's supposed to come back from Spain that day, though, so we'll see. But I like that he wanted to go out with me as soon as he got back! He did say, "You're the only one from eharmony I'll be going out with, that's for sure," and when I asked what he meant he sort of avoided giving further explanation. We'll see!

Dinner group date?

On Monday at my dinner group I met this guy who seems really nice. He's an attorney and much older than me, but I could tell he was interested. After dinner he asked me out! I said yes. The next day he emailed me and called me.

His email: "I enjoyed meeting you last night, and would love to see you soon. I loved the JDate horror stories, and your fun personality. And we have several things in common too."

He's like, a grown-up!

I have been unbelievably busy and haven't had time to talk to him, will call tonight. I hope he doesn't think I'm blowing him off.

A little boy fun last night

I went to my dinner group last night, which was perfectly pleasant. It was full of guys but I somehow ended up at the end of a table so I couldn't talk to people and eventually I moved. My friend was like, "There are tons of guys here, why aren't you talking to them?" I explained that I felt fat and that is was taking the zing out of me, so to speak. Sometimes it's just so hard to be a woman.

However, at the beginning of the evening a guy I've had my eye on for over a year but rarely see came in. He shook hands with me and couldn't remember my name, but put his arm around me and laughed about being forgetful, so it was ok. During dessert I went to the table where my buddy was, and he was there and we all talked and laughed for liek 20 minutes. He was paying me enough attention that I thought he might be interested.

Then after dinner we were talking and I said, "You know, we're facebook friends." He said, "So then can I poke you sometime?" I laughed and said we don't do that anymore but he could send me a jello shot or something, since that seems to be what people do. But I felt I had been a little too negative about it (my account isn't perfectly accurate), so, after we got talking to other people I went back towards him and said, "And send me a jello shot, or something..." He said, "A jello shot ... or pudding!" "Pudding! That's yummier!" I said.

So there. The Surrendered Single book said something about being open to stuff, and I wanted to make sure he knew I wanted to hear from him a little more clearly. But the ball is still in his court, so I think I'm doing this right. If nothing else, it's good practice!

Dinner recap

Yes, it's been a week - sorry, I've been sick again. Anyway: the dinner was lots of fun, and none of the big hotties showed up which was just as well given my Level 4 Biohazard status. I did admit to two of my friends that Gorgeous Guy has an effect on me unlike almost any guy - I get stupid when I see him. Yep.

I had fun teasing my friend that he "dumped me on eharmony." He's the one that I was matched with first and I didn't think we were a great match (for one thing he's really into physical fitness and I vacillate between chubby and chubbier). But we sure have a good time teasing each other! He got to give me the line, "Once you go black..." since he's black (well, Panamanian black - no American black guys can dance like that!).

Overall I hosted a nice dinner and everything went pretty well except someone slipped me a ten instead of a twenty at some point and I had to make up for their cost. Will be more careful next time!

The teacher cancels!

The teacher called to say he can't make my group's dinner tonight, so I teased him. At least he called rather than just emailing me. Also, I have a nasty cold so it's just as well, right? That is why I did not email Gorgeous Guy to pester him to come to the dinner like I have pretty much everyone else I know in the group! But without the mens, I think I may actually have a better time!!

Face problems

So I have these rashes on my face, which I have now been to the dermatologist about twice. It's just as well I'm not dating much right now, right? Like, I had the one rash and it was sloooooooowly getting better. Then yesterday a new one popped up on the entire right side of my face. Sigh. The doctor was all like, "Wear sunscreen and reapply all day long," and I whined. Seriously, I whined at the doctor. Wouldn't you? Cripes! Be a facial gimp, and smear 7 expensive things on your face at several intervals daily, don't worry, it's fine.

I am hosting a dinner for my Monday night dinner group, trying to entice people to come. Luckily I already have one cutie signed up, although whether he is single is another (extremely important) question. Luckily my new treatment seems to be working, so I won't have to show up naked to keep people from noticing the facial rashes.

Matched with another guy from dinner group

He's got an unusual name, even in Miami, so I had a feeling when I saw the listing that it was him. He's totally hot, for real! I'm trying not be negative and assume he'll close the match. He is very smart (Ivy grad) and rather philanthropic, two things that work very well for me since I am both. Did I mention he's hot?

Monday night summary

Monday was a busy night for me in the boy department.

The 22-year-old showed up at the dinner group holiday party at Skybar at the Shore Club. There's something about him I really like, even though I don't know him very well. And he's persistent: we now have a coffee date for 12/31. I'm not used to being pursued this much. It's nice! Follow-up email in less than 24 hours, that sort of thing. I'm enjoying it. My married friend doesn't understand why we'd do a coffee date instead of dinner, but I explained that this makes me less nervous. Yes, I'm actually rather nervous about this stuff. All that vivaciousness covers up my anxiety.

So anyway.

The teacher showed up as well. I wanted to talk to him alone, but people kept getting in the way! Eventually I had to tell them to just give us three minutes. Then I looked at him, he looked at me, and he blurted out, "I think you're totally hot." Yes, folks, just like that. Things like that don't happen in real life! It was cool. I said thank you. Then I was starting to get into the do-you-want-to-go-out thing and he was like, "but you see" and I said, "Oh, you're seeing someone." "Yeah." "Okay," I said. "I'll give you my card anyway?" He heartily agreed (poor girlfriend). Then I looked him in the eye and said, "Anything she can do, I can do better."

What can I say? I was feeling bold. And I didn't mean it sexually, I just meant that I'm pretty awesome. Which I am.

C showed up, which was a little weird.

The gorgeous guy showed up, even said he was looking for me, which tickled me pink, I have to admit. I bet he'd laugh if he read this.

Another e-harmony match!

This morning I found myself matched with another guy from my dinner group (that's how I know C). He's a good guy, although I don't think we're a super match and I'm sure he would agree. He's viewed my profile but not immediately closed the match, probably because he has better manners than C! He does have excellent manners, but it's attractive because he's a good-looking guy.

It's interesting to see what e-harmony pumps out. So much better, I think, than general match.com matches.

C and I were matched on E-harmony

You may recall my adventures with C (not his real name, of course - who is named with the letter C?). We were friends. Sometimes I miss him, but mostly I think it would still be hard for me to hang out with him right now. I saw him a few weeks ago at my dinner group and it was fine, but I was accutely aware of him the whole time, tables away.

So today I was showing my coworker how this guy I'm talking to on e-harmony has really nice legs, and I saw there was a closed match with C. I started laughing! I knew it was inevitable that we would be matched, if he was still on the site, because we are pretty damn compatible. He gave three reasons: he is taking a break from dating, we are communicating outside of e-harmony, and other. So I texted him:

Me: What, you don't want to do guided communication? ;) lol

Him: Well you know so much about me already that they would need to write 100 things you didn't know about me.

Me: Did you really have to put "other"? Sheesh!
Him: Well there was no "got busy option" so I had to go with the other ;)

Me: Rofl. Sometimes I miss these texting sessions. Maybe I should take you out of purgatory.

Him: Yes - (awkward silence as I face the corner in my room surrounded by the murmurs of shadows and st peters hot stern laser vision burning the back of my neck)


Oh, and no, he still doesn't have a job.

Some random notes about dating

I talked to #7 from eharmony. We clicked really, really well. Friday night he said he'd call me later, and he hasn't called. I see that since then he's looked at my profile on eharmony. It's just weird, you know? I mean, I think I know why #4 and #5 didn't call. But I don't have any idea with this one. Thing is, he's apparently just lost 200 pounds (yes, 200). And he even said that he's still learning how people perceive him now, and it's all new to him.

I guess I sense there is a project in #7, and I don't want a project. I don't want to train a new one, you know? I want a guy that's already a little trained - maybe lived with a girl, if not divorced. And I guess I also sense that he's going to have some serious self-esteem issues. Barf-o.

Tonight at my dinner club, I think there were two guys interested in me! One is 22, but he was fun to talk to, mature for his age, and unperturbed when I said I was old enough to be his mother - he totally worked me anyway, all the right questions. Really has his shit together, running a small company already with 4 employees. The other is one I've met before (he's older than me at least), and I get a good vibe from him. He's a teacher. Cute guy, laughs at my jokes (always a good sign, right?). Passed me several times during dinner, put his hand on my back. Then I moved and sat by him and some of my girlfriends in the group. He tucked a flower behind my ear. He seemed nervous! It was sweet. We chatted for a while. As we were all leaving, he said, "Well, I guess I'll see you again before Christmas, right?" I said maybe, because "I'm a busy girl!" I think he was trying to figure out about asking me for my number. Or I'm crazy, but I don't usually imagine things. Oh, and he's best friends with this guy that I was talking to on match.com until I approached him at one of these dinners and was like, "Hey, howya doin'?" After that he never responded to my email. It's weird though whenever I see the guy, because I feel like I'm the one that rejected him - it's something about how he acts.

This totally gorgeous guy I met at dinner about a month ago wants to go out with a girl from my women's book club that I brought to that dinner. Despite his obvious social skills, he didn't seem to quite know how to go about it, so I had to spell it out - give me your number, give me your email, blah blah blah. I've already emailed her, the lucky duck! This guy is gorgeous! And smart. And loaded. I pointed out that he wouldn't even have been sitting next to her if I hadn't hailed him over and strongly encouraged him to plop down next to her. I'll tell him he owes me one! I suspect he would know what kind of guy to set me up with. He seems to have my number already, as they say.

Oh, and I met a real cutie last night at this guy's book club meeting in South Beach.

On a somewhat lighter note

Last night I went to my dinner group, and it was fun! I brought a friend from my women's book club along, and my buddy from college that moved here recently came too. I sat next to him and she ended up across the table from us; I was a little worried she'd be isolated but then a really cute guy sat next to her, so I figured, hey, I think she'll manage. Heh.

I still haven't heard from #5 (or #4). One of my friends last night, a cute guy, said he thinks guys in Miami are weird and he doesn't understand them. That made me feel better about not getting called, but it made me feel hopeless about dating here!

Argh. It's not like a date with me is forgettable. I mean, come on!

Now I have to write back to another guy that wrote me on a dating site. I've put it off because when they write the first few I have to read their profiles so I can ask them stuff. So I have to give it a little time and attention. And I'm like, so then we go out once and if I like him, he doesn't call?

Hopefully I'll feel less hopeless tomorrow.