Weekend Summary

Saturday I participated in a moving party of sorts at the Flamingo in South Beach, and learned the down side of having 15 friends go through all your stuff while you're distracted. At least none of us put his underwear on our heads and ran around the apartment! After we were done and lounging in the new place, the second dinner group guy I was matched with showed up. We teased the hell out of each other, and he said, "What kind of e-harmony girlfriend are you going to be if you don't remember that I lived in Baltimore?" So then we told people we were matched. We agreed to let each other view our personality profiles, which you don't normally display on the site. So today I logged in and saw that he had checked out my profile again, then I changed my settings so he could see my big long mess of a personality profile. He hadn't shown his though so I emailed him on facebook to do it, then he did immediately. It's funny, sometimes I felt like I was reading about myself a bit, and other stuff struck me as highly accurate about him. It was different than my own profile because the format is MUCH easier to read - I don't know if mine will read like that for him. I'm letting him take the lead on that convo! I want to be pursued! I want to be chased! I'm not doing all the work until I already have them definitely interested.


On the drive home I talked to the guy who owns a dive shop. He seemed to talk about himself a lot. But then, I've been known to do that so I'm trying not to pass judgment. Plus we had a cool convo about a band I didn't expect him to like that I like a lot (All American Rejects) and he seems like a cool guy. And he lives in the Keys but comes up to Kendall twice a week for ice hockey, so the distance isn't an issue for him.


Finally, on Sunday I went out with #8, who is a Chinese-American project supervisor for a construction company. I had a lot of fun! We met at Starbucks on Miracle Mile in the Gables and the weather was PERFECT. We laughed a lot about non-pc stuff, which is always fun for me. I'm SO not pc. Heh. Anyway, at the end he walked me to my car and asked me out again right there on the spot, and I said yes. It'll be after I get back to Miami on the 30th. We were going to do Ethiopian, but I just learned last night that Sheba is closed, so we'll have to pick another cuisine. Anyway, #8 may party too much, or at least hang out with that type of crowd too much for me, but we'll see. I just had a lot of fun!

I have a coffee date on Sunday

Talked to him a couple nights ago. Seems like a good guy. I guess he will be #8. I think I'm smarter than he is, though, and that can be a problem. For them and for me. I've encountered it before - either their awed by my brilliance (yawn) or determined to prove that they are actually smarter (oy).

Am also talking to a guy that runs a scuba diving company on Key Largo. He seems pretty cool. Don't know if I can actually dive because when I go down three feet in a swimming pool my ears hurt...

Also talking to a 38 year old Marine Corps officer who works at SouthCom. Seems like a big outdoors type, though, so I dunno. Do I strike you as a big outdoors type? I didn't think so. Too bad, cuz he's hot! Kinda invited me to go wind surfing. Yeah, I'll get in a bathing suit in front of him asap. Not.

My first pecan pie

Yummy, right? Of course, now that I know what went into it I don't know if I can bear to make another one. 3 eggs, one cup of sugar, one cup of corn syrup (I used the reduced calorie kind, but still!), and 1 1/4 cups pecans. Oh, and a little oil.

Monday night summary

Monday was a busy night for me in the boy department.

The 22-year-old showed up at the dinner group holiday party at Skybar at the Shore Club. There's something about him I really like, even though I don't know him very well. And he's persistent: we now have a coffee date for 12/31. I'm not used to being pursued this much. It's nice! Follow-up email in less than 24 hours, that sort of thing. I'm enjoying it. My married friend doesn't understand why we'd do a coffee date instead of dinner, but I explained that this makes me less nervous. Yes, I'm actually rather nervous about this stuff. All that vivaciousness covers up my anxiety.

So anyway.

The teacher showed up as well. I wanted to talk to him alone, but people kept getting in the way! Eventually I had to tell them to just give us three minutes. Then I looked at him, he looked at me, and he blurted out, "I think you're totally hot." Yes, folks, just like that. Things like that don't happen in real life! It was cool. I said thank you. Then I was starting to get into the do-you-want-to-go-out thing and he was like, "but you see" and I said, "Oh, you're seeing someone." "Yeah." "Okay," I said. "I'll give you my card anyway?" He heartily agreed (poor girlfriend). Then I looked him in the eye and said, "Anything she can do, I can do better."

What can I say? I was feeling bold. And I didn't mean it sexually, I just meant that I'm pretty awesome. Which I am.

C showed up, which was a little weird.

The gorgeous guy showed up, even said he was looking for me, which tickled me pink, I have to admit. I bet he'd laugh if he read this.

And another one

The one thing XX is most passionate about:
Art, painting, writing, nature, exotic pristine beaches, romantic / erotic interludes, very openminded lifestyle, reading about and meeting people who step out and explore the boundaries of sexuality.

The most important thing XX is looking for in a person is:
Extremely open minded :) and willing to try everything atleast once. A cheerful friendly person that enjoys the smaller moments of happiness as much as the more adventurous ones.... going on long drives, visiting Barnes and Nobles, beaches, watching a nice movie together at home, even say visiting adult clubs / swinger parties. A wonderful girl with an independent and orignial, outlook to life. A woman with no taboos willing to unabashedly fulfill all her fantasies.

Okay, enough creeps!!

Another e-harmony profile

The one thing Richard is most passionate about:
Getting into and completing the school of anesthesia. Great lovemaking in a meaningful relationship


I'm really missing out with this one.

My book club friend & gorgeous guy

She has a boyfriend. I told her I was disappointed, because this guy is GORGEOUS.

Oh well.

I'm hoping the teacher shows up at our dinner group on Monday.

Another e-harmony match!

This morning I found myself matched with another guy from my dinner group (that's how I know C). He's a good guy, although I don't think we're a super match and I'm sure he would agree. He's viewed my profile but not immediately closed the match, probably because he has better manners than C! He does have excellent manners, but it's attractive because he's a good-looking guy.

It's interesting to see what e-harmony pumps out. So much better, I think, than general match.com matches.

C and I were matched on E-harmony

You may recall my adventures with C (not his real name, of course - who is named with the letter C?). We were friends. Sometimes I miss him, but mostly I think it would still be hard for me to hang out with him right now. I saw him a few weeks ago at my dinner group and it was fine, but I was accutely aware of him the whole time, tables away.

So today I was showing my coworker how this guy I'm talking to on e-harmony has really nice legs, and I saw there was a closed match with C. I started laughing! I knew it was inevitable that we would be matched, if he was still on the site, because we are pretty damn compatible. He gave three reasons: he is taking a break from dating, we are communicating outside of e-harmony, and other. So I texted him:

Me: What, you don't want to do guided communication? ;) lol

Him: Well you know so much about me already that they would need to write 100 things you didn't know about me.

Me: Did you really have to put "other"? Sheesh!
Him: Well there was no "got busy option" so I had to go with the other ;)

Me: Rofl. Sometimes I miss these texting sessions. Maybe I should take you out of purgatory.

Him: Yes - (awkward silence as I face the corner in my room surrounded by the murmurs of shadows and st peters hot stern laser vision burning the back of my neck)


Oh, and no, he still doesn't have a job.

Another profile on match.com

This is how it starts:


i am easy goin guy a christian, i love sex, i am a weight lifter,tabble tennis player,i love playin wit whom i love …



Wow.

Some random notes about dating

I talked to #7 from eharmony. We clicked really, really well. Friday night he said he'd call me later, and he hasn't called. I see that since then he's looked at my profile on eharmony. It's just weird, you know? I mean, I think I know why #4 and #5 didn't call. But I don't have any idea with this one. Thing is, he's apparently just lost 200 pounds (yes, 200). And he even said that he's still learning how people perceive him now, and it's all new to him.

I guess I sense there is a project in #7, and I don't want a project. I don't want to train a new one, you know? I want a guy that's already a little trained - maybe lived with a girl, if not divorced. And I guess I also sense that he's going to have some serious self-esteem issues. Barf-o.

Tonight at my dinner club, I think there were two guys interested in me! One is 22, but he was fun to talk to, mature for his age, and unperturbed when I said I was old enough to be his mother - he totally worked me anyway, all the right questions. Really has his shit together, running a small company already with 4 employees. The other is one I've met before (he's older than me at least), and I get a good vibe from him. He's a teacher. Cute guy, laughs at my jokes (always a good sign, right?). Passed me several times during dinner, put his hand on my back. Then I moved and sat by him and some of my girlfriends in the group. He tucked a flower behind my ear. He seemed nervous! It was sweet. We chatted for a while. As we were all leaving, he said, "Well, I guess I'll see you again before Christmas, right?" I said maybe, because "I'm a busy girl!" I think he was trying to figure out about asking me for my number. Or I'm crazy, but I don't usually imagine things. Oh, and he's best friends with this guy that I was talking to on match.com until I approached him at one of these dinners and was like, "Hey, howya doin'?" After that he never responded to my email. It's weird though whenever I see the guy, because I feel like I'm the one that rejected him - it's something about how he acts.

This totally gorgeous guy I met at dinner about a month ago wants to go out with a girl from my women's book club that I brought to that dinner. Despite his obvious social skills, he didn't seem to quite know how to go about it, so I had to spell it out - give me your number, give me your email, blah blah blah. I've already emailed her, the lucky duck! This guy is gorgeous! And smart. And loaded. I pointed out that he wouldn't even have been sitting next to her if I hadn't hailed him over and strongly encouraged him to plop down next to her. I'll tell him he owes me one! I suspect he would know what kind of guy to set me up with. He seems to have my number already, as they say.

Oh, and I met a real cutie last night at this guy's book club meeting in South Beach.

I don't totally understand this answer

QUESTION FROM ME
1. I'm not a pirate but I can be sort of foul-mouthed. What does "foul-mouthed" mean to you? Dropping f-bombs all the time, while, like, ordering a pizza? I keep it clean at work, with kids, & when arguing but otherwise can be off color...

ANSWER FROM HIM
Foul mouthed is not on the top of my list of likes. I think cursing is a sign of conviction of personal righteousness. When you curse a lot the personal conviction that might be afforded to someone is discounted.


Okay, so I don't really understand what he's saying. Does this mean he has bad communication skills? Or what?


Next question from him:
1. Whom would you like to be profane with right now?

Come on, really? Yeah, I wanna "be profane" with everyone all the time! Oy.


On a side note, #6 called again. Maybe I'll have to text him a Dear John message.

#6 Called

#6 called on Wednesday night. I did not take the call. Hopefully he won't call again, or only once more. I don't want to have to actually write him a text message that I'm not interested. Is that wimpy of me? Maybe. Oh well.

e-harmony Question

On e-harmony you can ask specific questions during the process, after you each send a list of must-haves and can't-stands: 10 each of things you absolutely must have in a relationship and can't stand in a relationship.

This guy said someone being "foul-mouthed" was something he couldn't stand, so I sent him this question. We'll see if he closes the match or actually responds! I mean, there are some things about me that I just have to be up front about.

So I wrote this question to him:
"I'm not a pirate but I can be sort of foul-mouthed. What does 'foul-mouthed' mean to you? Dropping f-bombs all the time, while, like, ordering pizza? I keep it clean at work, with kids, and when arguing but otherwise can be off color..."

Sunday Chat with #6

#6 called Sunday night. We had a nice talk I guess, although I stayed on the phone too long with him. He seemed intent on convincing me I should move, which was annoying. It annoys me to no end that people think living in old-school Dadeland is bad. It's nice! It's quiet, it's very very safe, it's convenient to my job and my al-anon buddies that live in East Bumfuck (aka the Hammocks), and the drive to sobe/grove/gables isn't horrendous (altho it ain't great, I won't deny that).

I asked him about the weird phone call and concluded by his response that 1) he didn't think it was weird that he called someone he hadn't even met at 10:15 at night on a holiday weekend when he knew they were out of town, and 2) it was basically a drunk dial.

Now, I know I'm hot stuff and all, but a drunk dial from a guy I haven't even met?

He also seemed shocked that I would give up on forcing minor plumbing problems in my apartment to be fixed after meeting tremendous resistance and bullshit. The problems aren't that bad. Nothing is falling off, you know? But he kept pushing it. It was weird. I felt like he though I was a quitter. I'm not a quitter, damn him!

Luckily he didn't ask me out yet. Wimp. Now I will just ignore his calls, if there are any more. Maybe he thinks I'm a quitter and won't call! That would be just as well. Give him more time for beer.