Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Two new matches
Anyway, we'll see!
Monday, March 30, 2009
Dinner recap
I had fun teasing my friend that he "dumped me on eharmony." He's the one that I was matched with first and I didn't think we were a great match (for one thing he's really into physical fitness and I vacillate between chubby and chubbier). But we sure have a good time teasing each other! He got to give me the line, "Once you go black..." since he's black (well, Panamanian black - no American black guys can dance like that!).
Overall I hosted a nice dinner and everything went pretty well except someone slipped me a ten instead of a twenty at some point and I had to make up for their cost. Will be more careful next time!
Monday, March 23, 2009
The teacher cancels!
Top Ten Relationship Tips
Now all I need is a relationship to apply them to.
Any takers?
Sunday, March 22, 2009
A match closed because of pot!
Other
I don't feel the chemistry is there
The distance between us is too great
I want to pursue other matches on eharmony
I am pursuing another relationship (so then why are you on eharmony?)
I'm pretty sure the only even slightly inflammatory item on my profile is "If you still ever smoke pot, we won't work out," so my weed-killer is working!
Face problems
I am hosting a dinner for my Monday night dinner group, trying to entice people to come. Luckily I already have one cutie signed up, although whether he is single is another (extremely important) question. Luckily my new treatment seems to be working, so I won't have to show up naked to keep people from noticing the facial rashes.
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Matched with another guy from dinner group
Friday, March 20, 2009
All the rich men are in Sheboygan?
1. San Francisco Bay area
2. Anchorage, Alaska
3. Washington, D.C./Baltimore
4. Sheboygan, Wisconsin
5. Naples, Florida
6. Minneapolis/Saint Paul
7. Rochester, Minnesota
8. Boston
9. Fort Walton Beach, Florida
10. Dallas
My notes - all the guys in San Fran are gay
The guys in DC are ambiguously gay, and the guys in Baltimore are NOT rich
Aren't all the guys in Minneapolis gay too?
Are you seeing the pattern here too?
Monday, March 16, 2009
When do I close open matches?
It's been weeks since I went out with both 18 and 19, yet they haven't called or closed the match. 10 did that too - didn't call but didn't close the match either. Are they all just afraid of hurting my feelings? I find that so odd.
So after a couple of weeks, is it okay to close the match? I mean, how long am I supposed to give them before I just show that I've given up?
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Should I try some other sites?
Then my mom suggested I go to The Right Stuff, a dating site for Ivy-type college grads. I didn't go to an Ivy, but I went to Johns Hopkins, which is on their acceptable list. But they only claim to have 4,600 members in the entirety of the US and Canada, and offer free membership to people in some states, including Florida, no doubt to boost membership.
So I googled "dating ivy leage graduates" and was led to Perfect Match. However, the site does not actually claim to match you on that basis. It seems to be claiming to be better at matching than eharmony. It does have 4 million members, or so it claims, which is certainly better than 4,600!
Then I looked at Chemistry, which seems to be claiming that chemistry is how they match you. What? Oh, no, upon closer inspection you just do ... a personality profile, like eharmony and Perfect Match.
All of these for the low, low fee of only your right arm, below the elbow!
Friday, March 13, 2009
Pshah
I swear to God I am not defective, but these guys don't call for second dates. The cute ones, I mean. The funny looking ones always call. Geez.
If it takes much longer, I won't have been able to choose to not have kids!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Photo critiques of eharmony matches
Then there's the gay-looking guy with bleached platinum blond hair, eventually showing a photo of himself at a Madonna concert. All I need is a picture of him watching "Golden Girls."
I dated a guy briefly back when I was in law school - he liked strawberry daiquiris and watching "Golden Girls." And his name was Leslie.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Watchmen
Monday, March 9, 2009
No calls
Anyway, I swear to god I'm not a freak. Why no calls? Sigh.
Friday, March 6, 2009
Eharmony v. grocery store
Also, apparently eharmony claims that it is now responsible for 2% of marriages in the U.S. I can believe it; even though my dates are amusing/sad/pathetic/drunk/not hot enough/awkward/whatever, they are people I genuinely get along with. If you pull random guys off the street they would not be nearly as compatible, IMHO.
Thursday, March 5, 2009
19 will score a second date too
Anyway, the conversation was pretty good. At one point he asked me how many eharmony dates I'd been on, and I suddenly felt like I'd been asked how many people I've slept with, so I was like, "Um, well, how many have you been on?" He says, "That many? Wow! I thought twelve was a lot" in the year he'd been on eharmony. So I said 16 since the end of November, which is basically true since the others were not eharmony... I'm a datin' whore! What can I say?
Red flag? He has the wanderlust. He likes to move frequently to new towns. See, I like Miami in large part because I have established friends, social groups, activities, and I know my way around (more or less). Of course, he'd like to move to San Diego, Portland or Raleigh. I'd never do Portland (too grim) but I'd do the other two. I LOVE San Diego. But the idea of relocating for no reason is stupid. I just can't do it. And it reminds me of my ex, who said "I want to wander the world and help people," which I thought was more due to the fact that he didn't know what to do with himself than anything else. 19 builds huge computer programs that are pretty cool - we talked about it in-depth and I'm sure he appreciated that I pretty much understood what he does. They always like that.
Red flag? His dog is really badly behaved. Like, I couldn't tolerate it, the way he describes it. And I doubt he'd appreciate my offer to retrain the dog. Even if I would do a kickass job.
Am I being nitpicky?
8 Things Never to do on a First Date
Ah, the first date -- you've been primping and plucking, and it's finally show time. After all that work you don't want to send them running for the hills because of something thoughtless you did at the table or in the car. Here are eight key guidelines on what to avoid...
"I Don't Valet" Sure, some people don't like to leave their cars in the hands of a valet. But if you've driven around the block more than three times and you're prepared to go an additional five until you find street parking (even if the spot is blocks away), quit while you're ahead. I don't let a guy pick me up - who does that? Plus we all live so far from each other I'm usually meeting him in the middle.
Nix Your Ex Never go on about any of your exes. Yeah, I've experienced this one a lot! Geez!
Texting... or answering your mobile phone for social purposes are big no-no's on a date. I fuckin' hate the phone calls - stop it! I am too awesome to be treated like that. But then, a guy that does that is really doing me a favor by letting me know immediately that he doesn't know how to treat a girl or isn't that into me.
Don't Be Nosey No blowing your schnoz at the table. The most I've experienced is the guy who gave himself a chiropractic neck adjustment - but he was already nixed within the first few minutes of the date.
Play Nice Being rude to the wait staff is a major turn off. Well, duh.
Pass On The Pricey Stuff Ordering the 3 lb. lobster and filet dinner or the homemade pasta with a mound of freshly shaved white truffles is obnoxious no matter who's paying. Don't go for the gold. Show a little class by sticking with the moderately priced ticket items. The guy who's credit card got rejected was the one who rang up the biggest bill yet!
Booze It ‘Til You Lose It Just one drink too many and you may find yourself saying and doing things that make all of the above look like afternoon charm school. And even if you don't go crazy, you might do some over-sharing that you'll regret in the morning. So, never go overboard on alcohol -- it's a safety issue as well as an etiquette one. Or in the case of 18, you find out I was born in October, you were born in September, but you are convinced that I'm older. Because you are drunk. Time to get in the cockpit, right?
Ditch The Dutch We may sound old-fashioned but when a guy asks a girl out, there's only one way to go on a first date when the bill arrives -- the guy pays. 'Nuff said.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Date with 19 tonight
Monday, March 2, 2009
Addition to my eharmony profile
If you still ever smoke pot, or drink more than 3 drinks in a sitting more than 4 times per year, we won't work out.
I have been warned!!
Nonetheless, I want him to call!
Sunday, March 1, 2009
My sandwich at Deli Lane
I really need to explore those South Miami restaurants some more.
Comments about 17 on facebook
My sister
LOL
I'm sorry to hear that though
A British acquaintance from across the pond
Six beers? That's not an alcoholic, he's just warming up. You Americans and your love/hate relationship with booze. He may have needed Dutch courage or something.
A girl I went to high school with
Perhaps tradition knew what it was doing by keeping young women so ignorant of the world of men. The more I discover about them, the more determined I am to remain single and collect cats. (hugs)
18 will score a second date
I could stand a sexy, confident, wealthy, sophisticated, smart, slightly older latin guy for a bf.
Btw, my friend's seven-year-old says I'm not allowed to say "sexy."