I talk too much about my intelligence

A friend kindly pointed out that I talk about being smart, wanting people to be smart, and that sort of thing a lot. So perhaps, her point was, that I do this with guys. And this could cause them to start telling me they're smarter than me because they feel intimidated. I don't know about that last part, but geez, it sounds like I have issues, right? And I totally do, about my intelligence and capabilities. So I need to work on that in the dating arena and in general.

Hey! It's my profile! Input needed. Obviously.

1. What are you most passionate about?
	A lot! Helping others, improving our country, doing the right thing. And I'm very passionate about my job.
2. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
	1. 2. 3.
3. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
	In recent years, my boss. I've learned a lot about myself through my interactions with him. But my parents really helped me learn how to write well (I try not to start sentences with "but," for one thing, heh), and I think that was a life-long gift.
4. The four things your friends say about you are: Edit
	Articulate Caring Intelligent Funny
5. What are three of your BEST life-skills? Edit
	Using humor to make friends laugh Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings Understanding local, national, and world events
6. What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
	A highly intelligent, educated, kind, thoughtful, funny, honest guy who treats people well. Can't limit it to just one!
7. Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
	That I'm smart and/or funny. And obviously, modest. ;)
8. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
	I can come across as very outgoing, social and talkative - but that's only one side of me. I can be quiet and pensive sometimes.
9. How do you typically spend your leisure time?
	Reading, socializing, exercising, watching tv, and right now, painting canvases to decorate my apartment and making jewelry.
10. What are five things that you "can't live without?"
	a. b. c. d. e.
11. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
	"The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo," which takes place in Sweden. Pretty good mystery-type novel. I enjoyed the Swedishness of it, since I'm part Danish.
12. Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.
	It would be unwise to put that all over the internet, now wouldn't it? ;)
13. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
	I'm an attorney but don't practice. I travel to Baltimore and DC at least 5 times a year. Please be at least 6 months out of your last meaningful relationship if you want to contact me. :)

Hmmm

Read his answer:

2. What are deal-breakers for you?

Out of shape! I'll never be fat... I'll be 7ft and black before I'll be fat, lol. So, I expect my match to maintain her figure. I am probably never going to be called "slim" or "slender." I need to lose some weight. It's on my to-do list, like at the top, but it's gonna take time (I need to establish a regular exercise program) and I'll probably always struggle with my weight to some extent. This already makes me nervous - like, is he really shallow? He lives like an hour outside of Atlanta. Input?

Wow!

So now I am being invited to hang out with two guys tonight. One is an acquaintance from college I haven't seen in like eight years. He's always eager to get in my pants though, and this time is no exception. The text messages he sends - geez. And I'm like, "It's not going to happen." "Y not?" "Because I don't sleep around" (okay, we all know that's, you know, a slight exaggeration) "Who said it's sleeping around? We know each other."

Men! They're all pushy to date you or do you, then once they get you in bed it all goes downhill. I swear. That's not to say I'm some big man-hater. It's just kind of grim.

The other is C, whom I have rekindled my friendship with. And occasionally more. C wants to take me to dinner as a thank-you for some legal advice I've been giving him. The more I know about him, the more I don't want anything beyond friendship. I thought I'd get attached, but instead I'm learning that he doesn't make good choices when it comes to women, his job, or finances. And that all adds up to someone that I could never date. It's weird because I was practically in love with him this time last year, and it all went down the toilet and I was very hurt. Now that I know him better, he has some wonderful qualities (for example, he's been advising me on my home-decoration by painting canvasses project and he loves the sci-fi stuff I love), but he's not what I deserve. He doesn't have some of the qualities I need to feel secure in a marriage. Like the ability to steadily have a job.

But having two guys want to hang out with me is pretty flattering. At least they both have advanced degrees, and are interesting and articulate!

Some interesting voicemails

The more I listened, the more I thought, "I'm never going to meet anyone."

http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny

So about your English...

I wish I could tell eharmony not match me with people who don't have excellent English. This guy wrote something about "my advisor in the grad school," and I'm thinking, if he makes mistakes like that, how can I be my smartass articulate self?

I can't!

Ah, well. This girl from the Surrendered Single intro thing I went to said she signed up for eharmony for a year and met her fiancee right when the subscription was about to run out. That'll be in late November for me.

Sex and the City

Did I mention that I've been watching Sex & the City reruns on TBS - I DVR them and speed through.

I've reached the part where Charlotte has met Harry, found him off-putting but fell in love anyway, and is considering converting to Judaism. At the same time Miranda realizes she's in love with Steve, but he says he's met someone and, "Don't worry, I'm not in love with you anymore." Samantha's still getting over a cheater, and Carrie's about to embark on her lame relationship with Berger.

It's weird, watching Carrie with Berger and Aidan, I thought it was totally obvious that the relationships weren't going to work. Did other people see that when they were actually new episodes? Or is it just because I know how it ends?

Either way, it doesn't give me gobs of hope.

Never heard from 24

I hate it when I have a great first date and I know the guy is in to me but then nothing happens. I don't know how often this happens to me, but it sucks!

My really good friend said this blog is depressing because it just goes on and on. I posited that maybe I'm just not as far as I need to be to meet "the one," but three chicks laughed at me and said the closest they would go on that one is that I need more growth to recognize "the one." But if he's in my life already, god help me!

I met a cute guy last night but he just got divorced and only wants to play the field. Sheesh.

Message I got from some guy on meetup.com

hello beautiful,how are you doing today? am kind of new hereand i took a lucky spin on the profiles here then i stumbled onyours.wow i must confess ive never seen any creature asbeautiful as you are.i bet theres a missing angel in heaven..iwould really love to get to know more about you.i have yahooand hotmail ims maybe we can chat sometime..cant wait to readfrom you .mailto:his@yahoo.com or mailto:his@live.comhope to hear from you soonhuggs and kissespaul





Bleh!

Email from 25

25, the opthamologist that flirted a lot with the waitress and seemed disappointed that I wasn't overcome with lust about his money, sent me this email:

I've been meaning to get back to you. I enjoyed our date and think you're very attractive. However, I don't thinkwe are perfectly compatible in a relationship but I'd like to keep in touch with you.

I wrote back, "Sounds good to me. :)"

Why? I dunno. Maybe he's fine as a friend. He certainly won't be all weird like 24 was, texting me and pressuring me to kiss him.

Haven't heard from 24

Which is never a good sign. What's up with that? A good date and then nothing? I swear, it went very well. Geez.

Date with 24

Went on a bowling date with 24 on Thursday at Lucky Strike off Lincoln Road. It was really fun! Okay, I spent the whole bowling time readjusting my clothes after every time I ... bowled a ball? But it was fun. Then we had some good Chinese food at Miss Yip's on Lincoln Road. Despite the fact that he's got 16 or 17 years on me (I'm not even 30 quite yet), it seemed like a good fit. He's uber busy, though, so I don't know when I might hear from him. I genuinely think we both had a good time. So if I don't hear from him, it's not about me. Dammit.

Message I got in an email by accident

This Portuguese researcher I've emailed with (about research for the disease I work with! Water research! That's it!) sent me this by accident, but it was weird because it was actually a response to my last email a month ago:


tb...
sabes o que gostava de ver agora... como é a tua lingerie :) (eu e as minhas coisas preversas)


You know what I'm thinking right now ... about you in lingerie :) (And I'm thinking dirty stuff)


I just had to share. People asked me if I responded, and I said no - why respond? To make him feel awkward?

24 rescheduled again

He asked last night if we could switch it from today to tomorrow because he wanted to take Thursday and Friday off, but he needed to work late Wednesday to do it, and also because he'll be in Miami on Thursday from 5-6 for some politician's thing.
I really hesitated to say yes, but I did. My schedule is open (lucky him!) and, I dunno, he keeps me engaged. That's good. I told him though, "I am being extreeeeeemely accomodating, extreeeeemely accomodating." And I told him if Thursday didn't happen, that's it. And I mean/meant it. He acted like I was all difficult, but then said he likes a challenge. But I wasn't being difficult, just telling him where I stand given his unreliability.
Remind me again why I even want to date? Or be married? And stuff?